Then we hit a regression where she refused to be set on the toilet unless pooping. I didn't want to force it, so we took a break. We are now in month 14, and she is showing signs of being ready to potty train for good! She pulls at her diaper wanting it off, she occasionally goes over to the toilet, and when I place her on, she pees. She is continuing to poop on the toilet, and she tries to tell me when she needs to poop as well. Our only barrier at this point, is communication. And this is the only reason that I haven't pushed harder to be all out potty training yet. She does not know how to say "yes"... only knows to shake her head "no". She does tend to get my attention in other ways (I just don't always realize what she needs until she is already going). She uses location as a way to tell me as well (she walks to the stairs and waits to go up to the bathroom).
I do have a potty training plan, and I intend to begin soon. If communication seems as though it is too much of a barrier, we will simply try again later. I do want to do this before she is 1.5 years old, however. Here are my initial thoughts on our plan.
1. Hunker down for about a week. We plan to stay home, and keep her bottom half naked (or in underwear only).
2. Place on the toilet often. Just as I used to make my puppy go outside about every hour, I plan to put Caroline on the toilet every hour.
3. Respond consistently when I place her on the toilet.
- If she goes, I will praise her.
- If she doesn't go, I'll try again soon.
- If she fights it and gets upset, I will take her off and try again soon.
- I will calmly and quickly tell her "no no, we go potty on the toilet", or "uh oh, let's go find the toilet" (something to this effect).
- I will keep my tone neutral (she is learning and should not be in trouble for an accident).
- I will rush her to the toilet to finish going.
- If she has already finished, I will still rush her to the toilet and explain to her that we need to go potty in the toilet.
TOILET VS. POTTY SEATMy thoughts on this lean towards using the toilet for a couple of reasons:
1. I do not want to have to retrain to go from a potty seat to a toilet.
2. I do not want to have to bring a potty seat with me and dump and clean.
3. You don't always have access to a potty seat and I want my daughter to be able to go wherever we are.
4. The ideal /natural pooping position (even for adults) is to squat or have your knees up. When I hold her on the toilet, her butt drops in and her knees stay up, making it easier for her to go.
Another option is to use a training seat that attaches to the toilet. We used this at first, but I found she felt more secure if I was holding her, and she does find it easier to go in the position that she ends up while just on the a plain toilet seat.
Benefits of the potty seat:
1. It can be moved to any location for convenience.
2. You don't have to hold your child while they are on it.
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