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Wednesday, July 13, 2016

BFBN WEEK (Topic: Strangers): Tricky People & Body Safety

It is Babywise Friendly Blog Network week! You will be hearing from these lovely ladies this week, all on the topic of "Strangers".

Today we are hearing from Natasha. Her post has some fabulous insight about "tricky people" and body safety. We will definitely be teaching Caroline about tricky people. I think this is a great way to get the point across without scaring your little ones. Check out the sneak peek below and head on over to her site to read the full post!

tricky people

"Tricky people" have replaced "strangers" at our house.  Why?  Because it's just a fact of life that you'll have to talk to and interact with strangers.  I have a friend whose son refused to speak to his kindergarten teacher and ended up getting sent to the principal's office because of it.  The principal called my friend and put her on speakerphone.  When she asked her son why he was being disrespectful and rude by not talking to his teacher, he said, "She's a stranger!  You told me not to talk to strangers!"  HILARIOUS!  But also proves my point - we're all gonna have to talk to strangers.  And for our kids, when they first come to live with us, WE are strangers to them!  Foster kids constantly have to trust strangers to take care of them - foster parents, their caseworker, CASA, their attorney, etc.
Also, your child is most likely to be hurt, harmed, abducted, assaulted, or molested by someone they know and are familiar with.  So given all this, we felt the need to teach our
kids to self-protect - to be able to tell the difference between safe people and unsafe people, or in other words, "tricky people," so that they could identify a person who isn't safe on their own, whether they know that person or not.
We also encourage them to trust their instincts - if someone makes you feel scared or uncomfortable, it's ok to walk away and find a safe adult.  I know this concept may seem a little more "fluid" and not as concrete as the other tips, but even young children can grasp this concept as well as the others.  Don't underestimate them!
We tell our kids that tricky people are adults who (1) ask kids for help, (2) tell you to keep a secret, (3) say you can do something or go somewhere without having to ask permission from your parents, and/or (4) ask you to break a family rule or body safety rule.

  • Asking for help - While we want our kids to be helpful and serve others, we don't want them to fall for someone's fake emergency situation.  I'm not talking about little things that people they know ask them to do like picking up something that fell or helping another little kid with something, etc.  I'm talking about a stranger or a person they don't know very well saying things like "I lost my dog, can you help me find him?" or the "can you go in that bathroom and tell my friend to come out?"
  • Keeping a secret - We don't do secrets, we only have surprises.  A secret is something you keep to yourself and never tell anyone.  Secrets make you feel scared, sad, alone, or confused.  A surprise is something you keep to yourself for a little while and eventually tell others.  Surprises make you feel happy and excited.

It is Babywise Friendly Blog Network week! You will be hearing from these lovely ladies this week, all on the topic of "Strangers".


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