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Why We Chose To Use The Babywise Method

Figuring out if you want to use the Babywise method can be an emotional decision.

It’s one of the first big decisions you’ll make after bringing your new baby home.

There is so much information out there on why you should feed on demand when breastfeeding, that if you are choosing a different method (such as Babywise), it can feel a bit overwhelming.

You can start to second guess yourself. My heart was telling me to use Babywise, but pretty much everything else was saying not to.

Benefits of the Babywise method, and why we chose to use the Babywise method with our children.

If you haven’t watched my video yet, you are going to want to. I remember it so was Christmas Eve night, and Caroline was 1 month old.

I was second guessing our choice to use Babywise, and my husband and I ended up in a huge argument with me yelling and ending up going for a walk to clear my mind.

Luckily, it all worked out in the end and we chose to go down the path of using Babywise (see video above for more details)…

Are you contemplating using the Babywise method?

Are you unsure what to do? Did you start Babywise already and you are lost, or you’ve been told not to do it?

You’ve come to the right place. I have been there!

Here I’ll discuss the benefits we found, my notes to the first time mom, and how to be successful with Babywise.

And if you want another good read, head over to my friends blog about how she quit Babywise (and came back to it). 

The Emotions and Frustrations that Go With Choosing the Babywise Method

If you look up anything about breastfeeding, odds are you will find that feeding on demand is “best”.

If you look up the Babywise method itself, you’ll find some articles out there stating how bad it is for your child.

There is a TON of misinformation on the internet, and most of those posts are written by people that have never actually read the Babywise book.

Side note: If you are reading a post like that and it states that Babywise says to not feed your baby or that it causes failure to thrive, please close it and don’t trust that site.

My friend Valerie (the Babywise Mom) notes in this post–> how many times the Babywise book (by Gary Ezzo) specifically says to “feed your baby”. It’s a LOT by the way!

Also worth mentioning, you should read the book for yourself. It’s a great resource!

The hard part, is that if you are drawn to the Babywise method, it can be hard to essentially go against the grain of popular culture and society.

If you have heard over and over and over that feeding on demand is best, and that you should never wake a sleeping baby, it’s hard to stray away from those thoughts.

I struggled with this in the beginning…

There are, however, so many of us that have chosen to use Babywise and have had such great success with it.

Check out these great posts from Babywise Mamas as well: How I Discovered the Remarkable Gift of Baby wiseHow I Discovered On Becoming Baby wise, and Why I Followed it Despite the ControversyWhy We Chose (and love) Babywise.

So, for those of you struggling with these thoughts about Babywise and what to do, I want to say 4 things to you:

1- It is ok to follow your head and your heart and do your own thing. Whether that means using Babywise, or something else. It is ok to do what feels right for your family.

2- In my opinion, Babywise is the best resource we used for our daughter. So good we plan on using it again. So good, I blog about it so others know how great it is. So good.

3-You can use Babywise while you are breastfeeding. Using schedules while breastfeeding actually helped to strengthen my supply and helped make my breastfeeding experience the good one that it was. I am not sure I would have made it a full year of breastfeeding had I chosen to feed on demand.

4- Doctors actually recommend feeding schedules. They may not give you the official term “Babywise”, but they are on board with core of it, because it makes logical sense.

Why We Chose To Use the Babywise Method

When it came down to it, we saw several benefits to using the Babywise method. It seemed to really make sense to us.

It seemed logical- like a no brainer.

Quite honestly, we wouldn’t have had any doubts about it, had I not been hearing that feeding on demand was best.

The 11+ benefits we noticed and experienced with Babywise:

Benefits of the Babywise method, and why we chose to use the Babywise method with our children.

1- Teaching your baby the difference between day and night will lead to better nighttime sleep.

2- Getting the right amount of daytime sleep (not too much or too little), will lead to your baby sleeping better at night.

3- Teaching babies how to get FULL feeds is beneficial to their sleep. (They aren’t waking out of hunger).

4- Feeding your baby the correct number of times during the day, leads to better nighttime sleep.

5- Having routines in place help your baby to know what to expect throughout the day, especially around naps and bedtime.

To read more about the famous Babywise eat wake sleep cycles, click here (it’s basically an easy routine to use throughout the entire day).

6- Teaching your baby to fall asleep without relying on food, will lead to better sleep. (If your baby wakes up, they don’t NEED to be fed to get back to sleep).

7- Your baby will eat because they are hungry, not because they need comforting and soothing.

8- Your whole family will get better sleep. Prioritizing sleep has so many of its own benefits!

9- A well rested baby is a happy baby and one that is ready to learn. Having a sleep schedule achieves this!

10- Breastfeeding is better on a schedule. Your body is super smart and loves being on a schedule. It’s great for your supply and emotional well being.

11- You will know when you can leave the house, and not get caught with a baby that is fussy due to tiredness or hunger.

12- I think I might be able to go on forever with all of the amazing benefits… LOL!

Check out this post from my friend Natasha as well, on 5 Reasons to Follow On Becoming Babywise.

Putting the Work In With Babywise

Encouragement For the New Mom That is Starting Babywise

Benefits of the Babywise method, and why we chose to use the Babywise method with our children.

There are some key things to introduce in the first month that will help you start implementing the Babywise method, and set you up for success in your Babywise journey.

I want to say it loud and clear, however: You aren’t going to make a schedule, and stick to that schedule for the first month.

The schedule is a simply goal.

It is something to keep in mind. It is not the most important concept to get across in the first few weeks, however.

I’ve seen moms in Babywise groups on Facebook literally get super stressed over the schedule early on.

Don’t let yourself fall into this trap, or you won’t be able to enjoy Babywise and really give it a good shot.

Set yourself up for success, and know that the schedule is something you are working towards, but not something that falls into place immediately.

What Concepts To Focus on In The Early Days of Implementing Babywise

1- Establish Day from Night

Start these tactics immediately with your baby. You can start this with a 1 week old baby, or even a 1 day old infant.

  • Keep it bright during the day and open up the curtains.
  • Keep it dark during the night and invest in blackout curtains if need be.
  • Wake your baby throughout the day (with the schedule in mind).
  • Let your baby sleep at night (unless your doctor has instructed you to feed around the clock for some reason).
  • Start your day off right and wake your baby at the same time every day. (DWT- desired wake time. Make sure to set this time for yourselves and stick to it).

2- Establish the Eat-Wake-Sleep Cycle

  • Newborns sleep SO much. Eating time counts as wake time.
  • After feeding, try to keep your baby awake, even if just for a tiny bit, to start establishing this routine.
  • This is one of the most important parts of your parenting journey with Babywise. By establishing this routine, you are preventing your baby from relying on eating to be able to soothe them to sleep. This is huge for being able to sleep through the night!

Read about the eat wake sleep cycle here.

3- Focus on Routines

  • In addition to the eat, wake, sleep routine throughout the day, you want to establish sleep routines. Infant sleep is so important as their little bodies grow!
  • Before every nap, and before bedtime have a routine in place. Keep it simple. A sleep routine can be:
    • Change diaper
    • Place in sleep sack
    • Put sound machine on
    • Turn lights out
    • Place in crib
  • As your baby gets older, you can incorporate books, songs, etc. Keep it simple though. We always keep bath time separate so the routine would be short and sweet.

4- Focus on Full Feedings

  • Newborns like to sleep. A LOT! Try and keep them awake for a full feeding so you aren’t feeding again too quickly.
    • Tickle baby’s toes
    • Use a cold wet washcloth on baby’s forehead
    • Do a diaper change and then continue feeding on the other side, or finish a bottle.
    • Do whatever you have to do to make sure your baby ate well!

5- Observe and Think About the Schedule

  • A newborn in the first two weeks will need to eat about 8 full feedings during the day.
  • During weeks 3 & 4 this may be down to 6 or 7 feedings if your baby is taking to the full feedings well.
  • Keep the schedule in mind. Wake your baby when it comes time for that next feeding so you can fit them all in during the DAY. You do not want to have excess feedings at night. Your goal is obviously to limit nighttime feedings as much as possible.
  • That being said, if your baby wakes up and is hungry, feed your baby.
  • The schedule WILL NOT be perfect. It is a goal. Don’t stress too much over this.
  • Observe, and even take notes so you know what you did throughout the day and how your baby did with the “schedule goal”.

I have a great printable schedule that you can use to record your observations in my shop at the below link:

Printable Parenting Tools

Baby Sleep Solutions
Printable Shape and Color Cards
Printable Potty Training Reward Chart
Printable Calm Down Tool Kit for Toddlers
Printable Toy Bin Labels
Printable Babywise Schedule Newborn to 6 months
Baby Sleep Solutions
Printable Shape and Color Cards
Printable Potty Training Reward Chart
Printable Calm Down Tool Kit for Toddlers
Printable Toy Bin Labels
Printable Babywise Schedule Newborn to 6 months
Baby Sleep Solutions
Printable Shape and Color Cards
Printable Potty Training Reward Chart
Printable Calm Down Tool Kit for Toddlers
Printable Toy Bin Labels
Printable Babywise Schedule Newborn to 6 months

6- Be Intentional With What You Introduce and Do

  • While sleep associations from a routine, or things like a sound machine can be great, sleep props can be a problem later on.
    • Sleep props are things like a pacifier, being rocked to sleep, or even being swaddled.
    • Until your baby can grab things and move around, they aren’t going to be successful finding a dropped pacifier and placing back in their mouth. It can cause issues and cause you to have to be there when they wake from dropping the paci, etc. Avoid this all together if possible by not introducing one.
    • If they need you to be rocked to sleep, that’s not the greatest either.
    • And if they need to be swaddled, yet keep breaking free of the swaddle, that’s no bueno!
    • Just keep in mind things that they would rely on you for, and try to limit it.
  • In the first two weeks, snuggle the heck out of your baby! But after that, try to make sure you are putting them down for naps. If they get used to being held, they can learn to rely on it later.

Check out this post from my friend Emily, if you are interested in further reading about how to handle and tackle Babywise in the early days.

Babywise Will Click and You Will Be Thrilled

For us, it was around month 3 when things really started to “click” and fall into place.

The schedule was going super smoothly, and the concepts of Babywise were really working to our advantage.

It may happen sooner, or maybe a tiny bit later depending on how consistent you’ve been, and just the temperament of your baby.

With Caroline, we rocked her to sleep every nap and every bedtime. I plan on trying hard not to do this with our next.

I think we would have seen success faster had we implemented this sooner.

We waited to do full on sleep training until Caroline was 4 months old.

Even still, we were successful and saw great results. I am really hoping to avoid having to do sleep training this time around… and I think that not rocking our baby to sleep will help tremendously.

Allowing our children to fuss a bit here and there is also a key thing to keep in mind.

All out crying isn’t anything I would do with a newborn, but a bit of “fussing” is totally ok. This is something I think we did really well with Caroline and will continue with the next.

When the moment happens that things really start to flow, it is such an amazing feeling. It is hard work, however.

You have to put in the time to implement routines, get full feedings, establish day from night, keep your schedule in mind, etc.

You have to be intentional and yet flexible all at the same time. You have to not stress, but be focused on your goal.

If you do those things, you’ll reach the golden part of Babywise where things flow so naturally. You and your family will reap the benefits listed above, and it will feel easy and stress free in those moments.

By the time your child is a year old, you’ll be looking back on your Babywise journey, so thankful that you did it!

I highly recommend buying the Babywise books.

They are inexpensive and have a plethora of information. I, of course, loved the first book, but I also am so glad we stuck with it and purchased the Babywise II book, Toddlerwise book, and Preschoolwise books as well. It’s a great foundation to have and the books are a must read!

Why We Chose To Use The Babywise Method
What is Babywise?

Babywise is a series of books that focus on everything from sleep schedules to discipline and more. The On Becoming Babywise book helps you to prioritize sleep for your baby. It uses the concepts of sleep and feeding schedules, along with the eat wake sleep cycle throughout the day.

How do I start implementing Babywise?

1- Establish day from night
2- Use an Eat-Wake-Sleep Cycle
3- Use routines (especially for nap and bed)
4-Focus on Full feedings
5-Observe and think about the schedule

Is Babywise just Cry it Out?

No. In fact, Babywise doesn’t discuss cry it out at all! Babywise is a form of sleep training, however. Babywise teaches babies HOW to sleep well and teaches them how to be successful putting themselves to sleep.

Can I start Babywise with my newborn?

Yes. It is best to start it as early as possible.

Can I start Babywise with an older infant?

Yes! Babywise concepts can be implemented at any time.

Another great book is the Baby Whisperer. It has many of the same concepts. Find the books here at amazon:

You Can Purchase the Babywise Books at Amazon:

Childwise Book
Childwise Book
Pottywise Book
Pottywise Book
Preschoolwise Book
Preschoolwise Book
Toddlerwise Book
Toddlerwise Book
Pre-Todderwise Book
Pre-Todderwise Book
Babywise Book II
Babywise Book II
Babywise Book
Babywise Book
Childwise Book
Childwise Book
Pottywise Book
Pottywise Book
Preschoolwise Book
Preschoolwise Book
Toddlerwise Book
Toddlerwise Book
Pre-Todderwise Book
Pre-Todderwise Book
Babywise Book II
Babywise Book II
Babywise Book
Babywise Book

There are a ton of resources on my blog, and at many other blogs. I am a member of the Babywise Friendly Blog Network (BFBN). It is a group of Babywise moms that all blog about- Babywise!

Other Posts of Interest Here at Mama’s Organized Chaos (click on each link to view):

All of our baby and toddler babywise schedules.

How Babywise Helps Babies Sleep Better

Babywise and Sleep Training – How they are related and misconceptions

Other Posts of Interest at BFBN blogs:

Kim- Why I Quit Babywise

Valerie- 5 Reasons I Love On Becoming Babywise

Christine- How I Discovered the Remarkable Gift of Babywise

Caitlin- How I Discovered Babywise, and Why I Followed it Despite the Controversy

Emily- How Babywise Allows Me To Have a Life Outside of Motherhood

Carrie-  Why We Chose (and love) Babywise

Natasha- 5 Reasons to Follow On Becoming Babywise

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